The origins of violence
Aggression in Latin – attack. Causes of aggression in children can be very different from somatic diseases or diseases of the nervous system to the peculiarities of education in the family, in particular the nature of the punishments that are usually used by parents in response to the manifestation of anger in your child.
The root cause of aggression can be in the aggressive behavior of the parents.
One of the causes of childhood aggression can be a Lack of love and attention from her parents. If your child feels in the family abandoned and worthless, he begins to attract attention by any means. For the baby any important sign of attention, even negative. He will fight in kindergarten, throwing toys, throwing sand on the street.
It is vital for emotional contact with their parents hugs, kisses. It’s important for him daily to hear from them: “We love you. We are glad that you have there. I’m happy when you’re with me. I’m glad that you got a boy (or girl)”.
Another cause of childhood aggression. The absence of rules and arrangements in the family.
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To communicate with the child. How?
Preface to the 6th edition
This book reproduces the text of previous editions without any changes. However, it is much more drawings, to the same color. Usually the illustrations help you better understand what is signified by the words. They awaken interest and is better remembered. As it turned out, many parents read this book with the children, and pictures are very helpful in their joint discussions and analyses of cases. I hope in this new form the book will appeal to readers of all ages.
I am deeply grateful to the artists Valerie Khmara and the Pauline Egorushkina, creatively embodied in the drawings of many interesting and difficult moments of communication between children and adults.
Prof. Y. B. Gippenreiter, April 2008
Preface to the 5th edition
This release is similar to the previous editions of the book unchanged.
I am very pleased with the constant desire of parents to improve their relationships with children. Readers are often asked to write “more” or “something else”. These requests inspire and make us think about the deepening and expansion of the main topics, the focus of this book. Hopefully, in the near future I will be able to fulfill the wishes of readers.
I want to add that all the answers to questions Continue reading
Not a simple question. Even adults sometimes don’t hear the first time. After all, about men, and about the staff often hear such complaints: “I say, I say, and as the wall peas. Here’s how another man to say?” But maybe these adults have grown from children who have not learned to hear the first time? Try to teach this child still stands.
The algorithm is as follows:
1. First of all, make sure you listen carefully.
It happens that the child is absorbed in play or work and really can’t hear. By the way, I when writing a text or develop a training program that is so focused on process that is totally off from reality. So I at this point have heard, you either have very very loudly to call, or to touch. The second option is nicer. Don’t like loud noises. Therefore itself in a similar situation too, I put my hand on his shoulder, drawing attention to yourself, even a little to himself to deploy. And just making sure that I managed to be in the spotlight, beginning to speak.
Have you ever talked with a young child who really wants to tell you something important? Which Continue reading